Sam and Shaan's New Year's Resolutions

i i would say that the last twenty four months of yours have been the best ever yeah yeah they've been dope can't can't lie and and that's great and i share that because you know it's okay for things to be good i feel like i could rule the world i know i could be what i want to from my all in and like a days off on a goal less travel never look where do wanna start you wanna start with some new year's eve stuff and then we go from there yeah alright so you it looks like you do resolutions or something like that so tell me i i posted that in here i don't i don't wanna mention all the numbers but are you a a a a cereal resolute like do you do this every year or not yeah i do it every so yeah i do every year and i so basically i have it into a few categories it's body money mind adventure random and where'd did you guys from that didn't seem like you that seems like you got that from somebody i made that up oh you did okay alright i like that why i thought like i don't know like ram ramirez say the or something i thought like that seems just like very frame out i feel like you would borrow that no that's mine that's mine and the reason i keep that i keep that thing at the top of my on of all my notes so i yeah i'm always using that so yeah yeah i it and i and i i again were body money mind adventure and random is that right yeah alright so walk me through and by the way do you usually hit these because i think there's this famous thing like january eighteenth is international quit day because that's how long most resolutions last about eighteen days or something like that it's like twenty eighth or eighteen eighteenth twenty twenty first or something like that most of you i don't even make it three weeks and that's why you know resolutions are a little bit there there's something there's something underneath it that's that's a crumbling foundation but you seem like an achieve who actually i hit i i don't hit all them i hit seventy percent seventy five i hit most of them like this year i wanted to do some athletic up but i got hurt and so getting hurt was the only reason why i wasn't able to get it done but other than yeah i'll get them done so i'll say him so body twelve percent body fat twenty minute five k thirty five inch her and then my first boxing match money wanna hit a certain amount just in index funds i wanna invest a certain amount via my syndicate kit i wanna make one dollar outside of my main core competency and i i wanna understand my spending dude i struggle to track how much i spend each month and i wanna figure that out do you struggle with that i don't struggle with that but i struggle with i i've just learned the value of bookkeeping in this past year like now that now that my business life is a lot more complex because it used to be all in on one startup up and we had somebody who did payroll books manage books all that and then it was like okay then i've had a job before and we have a job you just get your w two and that's it you go in your way and now that i have like multiple businesses and things like this i'm like fuck a bookkeeper is like actually one of the most critical hires because it tells you about you're spending and what's money and money out but more importantly it's like prevention rather than the cure you prevent having problems when it comes to taxis our cash flow planning because you're on top of things rather than trying to reconcile shit at the last minute so it's yes i agree with all that it's just hard for personal stuff because it's hard for bunch of so i gotta figure that out and then for mind i i i wanna pick one thing to focus on i gotta figure out a little bit focused i'm i i tend to read a lot but often i read stuff just to make to improve my life but really i just i wanna read for fun a lot more than i have i wanna get become far more comfortable with money i think i've got a pretty unhealthy relationship with how i view money i have somewhat of a scarcity mindset and i wanna focus more on treating a schedule i've been rolled loose with my schedule lately and it finally have more fun i don't think i have it a fun and i need to lighten up for some things after i do these fifteen goals and tasks i want more i'm pretty like up tight and then finally adventure alright so i wanna go to a self defense gun class i'm gonna take a motorcycle trip in two weeks i wanna go hunting for the first time i wanna camp more and i wanna take a rally car class that's what i want it those are good i like that you have these two categories adventure random i don't think most people have adventures that they wanna go on and random in their life which is they should i think it's a miss yeah if you don't so my random one is i've got a really bad tattoo on my upper thigh i wanna get covered up it's a homemade tattoo and depending on which way you look at it either says wow or mom is your mom flattered by that no of course not it's all dude it's fucking awful it's the worst okay so what do you wanna talk about with this so where do you wanna go with this this second what is yours so i don't do resolutions for two reasons one is if i decide that i want something i just immediately start to pursue it so what that means is by the time january first rolls around i don't have like un started adventures that i need to like you know decide on because like if i if it was december fourteenth and i was like i really need to lose weight i would start december fourteenth i might not like finish the goal or whatever but like i just start goals as soon as the like i i kinda have that mindset of inspiration is perishable it expires you know inspiration like nick avocado and so you know you wanna you wanna strike while the avocado is still green and so that's that's the first reason i don't do resolutions the second is they frankly didn't work well very well for me so when i did do them i was more like the january eighteenth quit day guy and i wasn't great at sticking to them and so i was like this is a stupid system then so the system that actually works for me is two things i do it end of the year reflection so i i basically just go through these five categories similar to yours yeah i have this life dashboard that i do it's basically health you know one to five where am i at wealth one to five where do i feel play so that's kinda like your adventure so how much fun am i having how much am i enjoying my day to day and you just rent rank these i know i don't rank these i i got a one to five scale one being i'm totally dissatisfied with this area of my life five being i'm so proud of where i am in this area of my life where would i rank it so like for many years if i was like really out of shape my health was just perpetually like a two out of five i was like well i don't have a fucking disease so it's not a one but i i'm not proud of where i'm at with this and so it was like a two two two and now it's like a four because i'm real i'm really proud that i've switched my habits up and so you know i just do a reflection because i what i found is you just it's like what gets measured gets managed type of thing it's like if just by shining a light on this area of my life i ended up with way more clarity about what's where am i what what am i doing what what important things am i neglecting what unimportant things have i been over optimizing and just being aware of it is like the first step i try to be just if i try to focus on the awareness rather than coming up with a solution and a fix right away so that's the first part that's the first exercise i do so alright so what what what were the rankings this year okay so i'll go through and i did this last year so the the first thing is i look at the change so try to see okay how much has changed between last last year or this year so a health is now at of four work is at a four and a half out of five so that's that's almost perpetually my always my my highest ranking one is work play play is now at a four and a half also kids made it a lot more fun and working out with like friends every single day who made it more so those was like a big boost to the play because kids just make you be silly like you can't just be you can't be serious around kids like they're they're bored so you have to be a goof ball or at least that's for me i have to be a goof ball and in doing so i'm just having actually more fun myself i'm doing it for them but then really i get the benefit the last two categories are love so you know relationship with wife with you know my mom my my sister stuff like that and then the last one is self respect and so self respect is the highest it's ever been it's a four and a half now so this this is the the the honestly the of my life dashboard this is the highest it's ever so i you know this would be like a peak year i guess i just had for for you know as long as i've been doing this was just about five years or so that's crazy what was the lowest a lowest was love because i like me and my wife are just like not spending much time together because it's like she has one kid and i have the other kid or she has both kids i'm like great i'm gonna get some work done and then same thing if i both get she's like i'm gonna go shower for the first time in two days like we just are not hanging out much and then all these other things i'm doing we're like work or working out or all this stuff that takes up a bunch of time and i realized like we haven't spent too much time together in the last you know a year and so that's actually like the lowest one on my on my board i don't i don't what i i've scored it i think maybe it was like a three or something this right for the last five years though what was the lowest year was oh what was the worst year probably when i first started this which is like why i started it because i was like feeling down i was like i need to like what is it really down i need to like check the score board and then i need to make the score board better but like let me check the score this i remember it was at the beginning of health was super low work was low because i felt like was in this five year s of my startup and i just didn't see a light at the end of the tunnel it was like is this shit ever gonna work like in my app actually a dumbass and like i think i'm smart but i'm actually a dumbass and that's why this is not working i was just health was low work was low play was low love and self respect refined i back then and and now you know things have all shifted good well i i would say that the last twenty four months of yours have been the best ever yeah yeah they've been dope can't can't lie and and that's great and i share that because you know it's okay for things to be good i think we live in a in a in a culture where you are supposed to be sort of like a ashamed of being happy in a way it's like it's like you it's a bigger status signal to be like vulnerable about how depressed you are then open about how happy you are you're like obnoxious if you're happy and you're like you know a vulnerable hero if you're sad and i just weird yeah like it's you're fine be whatever you are but just celebrate when somebody is what they actually are and are aware of it you you don't don't give points for one or the other and like celebrate one or the other and especially this weird reverse thing where we celebrate people who are like you know in the in the dumps yeah i feel like i could rule to where to i know i could be what i want to put at all in it like a day's off on a travel never looking back